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I'm Lisa Bowman. The Religion Network is an interfaith web site providing inspiration, quotes and
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Don't overlook the value of friendship. Don't neglect friends.
Friends are a joy...Friends can be a comfort. Who knows us
better, or is more able to give us support, than a good friend?
A friendship is a comfortable place to be ourselves. Often,
our choice of friends will reflect the issues we're working on.
Giving and receiving support will help both people grow.
Some friendships wax and wane, going through cycles
throughout the years. Some trail off when one person
outgrows the other...
But some friendships last a lifetime...
Excerpted from "The Language of Letting Go,"
by Melody Beattie
Kitty Felde, winner of multiple awards for journalism, is Special
Correspondent for Los Angeles radio station KPCC. Prior to this
position, she hosted the station's "Talk of the City" for five years.
During Felde's career she has distinguished herself with reports
from Africa and The Hague on AIDS and the war crimes tribunals
for Rwanda and and Bosnia. Also an award-winning playwright,
her work has been produced in New York, Los Angeles and at
the National Theater in Washington, DC.
Her essay, which follows, was originally printed in the Los Angeles Times on
June 7, 2007. It speaks eloquently of deep and blessed friendship. It is reprinted
to Kitty for her generosity in sharing this with The Religion
Network. I'm blessed to call her a friend.
Dreaming in thread and fabric
Many people dream of a gourmet kitchen, a spa bathroom, a master suite to rival
the fanciest hotel. For Mary and me, our dream space was a sewing room —
dedicated to our obsession for silk charmeuse, measuring tapes and 5/8 -inch
There would be space for a 6-foot fabric-cutting table, two sewing machines, a file
cabinet to hold hundreds of patterns and dozens of shelves for the glass jars we
filled with buttons and thread and every notion under the sun. It would be a cozy
room with a comfy armchair that invited us to sit down and hem a skirt. Most
important, the room would be flooded with natural light, perhaps a sun porch or
a cupola with windows on every wall, on the top floor of a quaint Victorian. It was
a dream we talked about over and over again.
Mary O'Donnell was my sewing buddy. We met on a Catholic church retreat in the
mountains above Los Angeles and hit it off the moment we discovered a shared
passion for sewing. Both of us had come that weekend to meet single men. We
were a couple of thirtysomething girls on the loose, determined to find the man of
our dreams that very weekend. Instead, we found a friendship for life.
Mary was an unlikely sewer. In her late teens, she'd developed rheumatoid arthritis
and suffered through several operations that left her hands partially frozen and
often in pain. So in typical Mary fashion, what did she choose as a hobby?...
From small beginnings, they grow stronger and
deeper as they run their course, and once they
have begun they cannot be turned back:
Thus it is with rivers, years, and friendships.
Ancient Sanskrit verse
One day Ananda, who had been thinking deeply about
things for a while, to the Buddha and exclaimed:
"Lord, I've been thinking - spiritual friendship
is at least half of the spiritual life!"
The Buddha replied: "Say not so, Ananda, say not so.
Spiritual friendship is the whole of the spiritual life!"
Samyutta Nikaya, verse 2
The greatest good you can do for another is not just
to share your riches, but to reveal to him, his own.
Benjamin Disraeli (1804-1881)
British statesman and Prime Minister
All human beings are alone. No other person will completely feel
like we do, think like we do, act like we do. Each of us is unique,
and our aloneness is the other side or our uniqueness. The ques-
tion is whether we let our aloneness become loneliness or whether
we allow it to lead us into solitude. Loneliness is painful; solitude
is peaceful. Loneliness makes us cling to others in desperation;
solitude allows us to respect others in their uniqueness
and create community.
Henri J. M. Nouwen (1932-1996)
Dutch priest and prolific author
Excerpted from "The Dance of Life,"
Ave Maria Press, 2005
We are, each of us, angels with only one wing,
and we can only fly by embracing one another.
Luciano de Crescenzo (1928- )
Italian film actor, writer and director
I can forgive but I cannot forget, is only another way
of saying I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be
like a cancelled note -- torn in two, and burned up,
so that it can never be shown against one.
Henry Ward Beecher (1813-1887)
American Congregationalist clergyman and abolitionist
For one human being to love another: that is
perhaps the most difficult of our tasks; the
ultimate, the last test and proof, the
work for which all other work
is but preparation.
Rainer Maria Rilke (1875-1926)
One of the German language's
greatest 20th century poets
And now, the Last Word:
Father in heaven hear my prayer,
keep me in thy loving care.
Be my guide in all I do,
Bless all those who love me, too.
You can't live a perfect day without doing
something for someone who will never
be able to repay you.
John Wooden (1910- )
Legendary UCLA basketball coach
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